Building Resilient Children: How to Support Your Child’s Success in School
Children who are confident, resilient and have high self-esteem are more likely to ask questions, participate actively, express their ideas, and take on new challenges. They are also better able to learn from mistakes, handle constructive criticism and often push themselves harder in learning.
Current research repeatedly shows that parents have the single biggest influence on their child’s resiliency, self-esteem and consequently, their success at school. What are some of the things you can do to help your child?
Have High Expectations and foster a positive attitude toward learning
·         express your belief in their potential to succeed
·         encourage them to try to continually improve and to be persistent
·         help them to develop good work habits and a sense of ownership for their own learning
·         remind them that mistakes are simply an opportunity to progress in their learning
·         make them responsible for planning and organizing their work
·         encourage them to ask questions and to seek help if needed
·         make them accountable for meeting deadlines, following directions, and completing work
·         discourage making excuses and instead look for ways to foster positive problem solving skills
Build resiliency and promote positive self-esteem
·         foster empathy, politeness, and consideration of others
·         show them how to be a good friend
·         explain and enforce fair and consistent consequences for poor choices or unacceptable behaviour
·         help them to celebrate and focus on the positive
·         acknowledge that sad, hurt, or angry emotions are also a normal part of life
·         help them to put daily events in perspective by acknowledging but not overreacting to events
·         make them face the natural consequences of their actions
·         teach them to set goals and talk about what steps they need to follow to achieve those goals
·         encourage them to try hard things and to persevere
Look for everyday opportunities for teaching and learning
·         Read to them. Read with them. Model reading for them.
·         Ask critical questions “Why do you think that happened?” “What do you think will happen next?” etc.
·         Discuss age appropriate current events.
·         Look for opportunities to use Math daily (price of gas/gallon, % off sale items, making change for  purchases, estimating cost of take-out orders, etc.).
·         Teach them about budgeting.
·         Teach them to cook.
·         Ask them to reflect on past choices. Ask them to consider what they would change or improve if they could go back and “do it over”.
·         Help them think about how they learn (verbal, auditory, hands-on etc.).
·         Help them focus more on what skills they have learned and less on what grade they might receive.